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Humanist wedding ceremonies often include symbolic gestures, or rituals. The oathing stone is a great alternative to handfasting, since this ritual is also typically performed while exchanging vows.
The history behind it
This ancient ceremony is rooted deeply in the celtic tribal traditions. Using a stone was thought to be the best way to express a solemn promise in physical form.
Having a connection to ancestors and the land was a critical ingredient to any important new venture, particularly entering into marriage. The oathing stone was seen as a way to help root your future into the wisdom of the past at the start of your new life as a married couple. It is thought to be how the expression ‘to set [something] in stone’ originated.
How it’s done
You both clasp your hands over your chosen stone.
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Make sure it’s not too heavy – ideally a stone, not a boulder.
When it’s usually performed
Using the oathing stone is typically performed while exchanging your vows, either your personal promises to one another, or your legal declarations – essentially setting your vows into your stone.
How to personalise it
The words recited as you clasp your oathing stone can be personal to you, and whatever stone you use will be personal to you too.
As with many wedding-related things, you can buy stones for this purpose, some of which can have your initials and the date of your wedding on them. But you may prefer to choose a stone from a place that has meaning to you both, such as a beach or other special place. It can be hand-painted too if desired.
Involving other people
You could consider collecting smaller stones from your special place that each of your guests can hold, or ‘warm’, during your ceremony. The idea is that each guest has the opportunity to pass on their well wishes, positive vibes and loving energies to you through interacting with the stones.
Keepsake
Your oathing stone and any other ‘warmed’ stones can take pride of place in your home.
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