Symbolic Gestures

Your Wedding ceremony will be personal and meaningful regardless of the elements you choose to include, but there are some symbolic gestures which are popular with many couples to give you some ideas for your special day. Here are some of the most popular symbolic gestures.

Please be aware that Government guidance around COVID-19 also means restrictions on symbolic gestures, we have included current guidance below each gesture. You can exchange rings, but the bands should be touched by as few people as possible; they may be passed over by members of the wedding party.:

Handfasting

Handfasting, hand tying or ‘tying the knot’ is an ancient Celtic marriage ritual.

The celebrant ties ribbons around your joined hands as a way of confirming your union. Hand fasting is an ancient Celtic marriage ritual and it is where the expression ‘tying the knot’ came from! It is a symbolic way of showing that you are joined to one another and although originally, the idea was that they be betrothed for a year and a day a hand fast during a legal wedding will be for life. You can also do a family handfasting and involve your family members – this is often done with young children, and is a lovely way of involving them in your ceremony.

COVID-19 Restriction – Please note a handfasting can only be included if the gesture can be completed whilst maintaining physical distancing. For example, a handfasting where only members of the same household touch the ribbons and are within 2m would be acceptable. Unfortunately, for most, this means that handfasting will not be an available option until restrictions ease. 

Quaich

Drinking from a Quaich is an ancient Scottish ceremony, symbolic of trust, love and peace between two people.

This act of sharing is a symbolic of the life you will share together, and the cup represents the cup of life. In drinking from the same cup, you are symbolizing your commitment to share all that the future may bring. All the sweetness life’s cup may hold should only be sweeter because you drink it together. And whatever bitterness it may contain should be less bitter because you share it together. This is traditionally done with whisky but you are welcome to choose a drink of your choice and create your own special drink (alcoholic or not).

COVID-19 Restriction – Guidance from Scottish Government advises that, unless for religious purposes, food or drink should not be included in the ceremony. Therefore, until restrictions ease, there can be no drinking from the quaich in ceremonies.

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Wedding Band Warming

A wedding band warming is a lovely way to involve all of your guests at the ceremony. This is where the wedding rings get passed round all the guests (usually tied on a ribbon or on a ring cushion) as the ceremony is taking place so that everyone gets to ‘warm the rings’ and add their own thoughts, wishes and hopes for your marriage. They are passed round (usually monitored by a reliable member of the wedding party) until they make their way back to the front in time for the vows.

COVID-19 Restriction – Unfortunately, you cannot include warming of bands at this time.

Unity Candle

A Unity Candle is a symbolic way of showing the joining of 2 individuals on your wedding day. You will light two candles to symbolise your identity as two individuals. This is usually done before the vows. After the vows you would light a third candle – although you are still individuals, you are also then as one and from the two candles they light a third to recognise your union together.

COVID-19 Restriction – This should be manageable with no cross contamination whilst observing physical distancing, but the lighter/ matches and candles should only be handled by the couple.

Jumping Over a Broom

This is an adaptation an old African-American tradition to jump over a broom on your wedding day. The broom symbolises the sweeping away of the past and the fact that you are now starting a new life together – as a happy married couple!

COVID-19 Restriction – This should be manageable with no cross contamination whilst observing physical distancing.

Oathing Stones

An Oathing Stone is an old Scottish tradition where you place your hands upon a stone while saying your wedding vows.  It was thought to be the best way to express your solemn promise in physical form. This ancient ceremony is rooted deeply in the Celtic tribal traditions.  Having a connection to your ancestors and the land was a critical ingredient to any important new venture – particularly, marriage. The oathing stone helps root your future into the wisdom of the past at the start of your new life.

COVID-19 Restriction – You can still incorporate an oathing stone into your ceremony, but it should not be passed round guests for well wishes.

Sand Ceremony

A Sand Ceremony is a unique way to symbolise two lives becoming one. The two separate bottles of sand represent your single lives, separate families and separate friends and your lives before your wedding day. Two containers of sand are poured into one container, the individual containers will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as the grains of sand can never be separated, neither will you in your married life.  This can be done with sand from significant beaches/areas in your lives or with different colours of sand too.

There is also a variant where you use different sizes of stones to represent the challenges you will take on together through your married life, big stones for the large events in life are placed into a jar until it is full. Smaller pebbles to symbolise those moments which may be less important but are still significant, will fill in the gaps around the larger stones until the jar again seems full. Then sand is poured in to symbolise all those small steps you take together each day. The sand fills in the rest of the gaps. This symbolises that while you may look back on your life together and see those big events, it is all the little kind gestures and support you give each other along the way that shore up and support you through the bigger challenges.

COVID-19 Restriction – With the current restrictions we would discourage sand ceremonies. However, if this is an essential part of your ceremony it must be limited to a maximum of three sand colours, all handled only by you. You, or one delegated member of the wedding party must be responsible for setting out and clearing up.