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Top tips for writing personal wedding vows
Thinking of writing personal vows for you wedding ceremony but not sure where to start? We get that the blank page can be very daunting! With that in mind, we spoke to one of our humanist wedding celebrants Rona Burstow to get some tips that will help you get started and find the right words.
Getting started
The best way to get started? Go back to the beginning of your relationship. “Start with your story.” Rona explains. “Think about how you met and ask yourself some questions to get started…
What made you fall for your partner?
What do you love about them?
Your story is where the magic is.”
The here and now…
Once you’ve got that down, a good next step is to think about where you are as a couple now and think about your life day to day. Rona says, “Think about what being together feel like day to day? What have they brought into your life? The real stuff is always the most moving!”
Looking ahead
“Next, look to the future. What are you promising? What kind of partner do you want to be? Whether it’s big promises or simple intentions. Say what matters to you.”
Vow books
Another practical tip from Rona is to invest in some vow books. This can be especially helpful if you’re feeling a bit nervous – knowing you have the words right in front of you to refer to can be a good comfort to keep you grounded on the day. They also make a beautiful keepsake. Rona explains, “They look lovely in your photos and are much nicer to hold than your phone. Plus, vow books don’t have to just be for your wedding day! Why not write in them every anniversary?”
Write what you know
We hope you’re feeling inspired and ready to get those words on the page. We’ll leave you with some final words of wisdom from Rona…
“Don’t overthink it!
Be honest. Be funny. Be a bit mushy. Be real. Be you. That’s what makes it beautiful.”
Writing your own vows isn’t about getting it “right”.
It’s about telling your person what they mean to you.
And that? You already know.”
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